You need in your life the following: The Digital Photography Books 1&2 by Scott Kelly.
Imo it covers your needs. Here is an extract from the book -
"Here is how Scott describes this book's brilliant premise "if you and I were out of a shot, and you asked me, 'Hey, how do I get this flower to be in focus, with the background out of focus? I wouldn't stand there and give you a photography lecture. In real life, I'd just say, 'Put on your zoom lens, set your F-stop to f/28, focus on the flower, and fire away'. That's what this book is all about: you and I out shoooting where I answer your questions, give advice, and share the secrets I've learned just like i would with friends - without all tthe technical explanations and techie photo speak"
I guess that sums it up. If you are wondering who is this guy, he is apparently a renowned photographer, he work with the best of the best and he is also the editor-in-chief of Photoshop user magazine.
The book imo is straightforward and includes many tips that yyou will find handy. I am going shooting today and the books are coming with me, just in case.