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So I got asked by friends that I used to live with at Uni if I'd shoot their wedding - in the bride's words "not looking for anything too posed - more the natural type pictures, and obviously lots of me looking slim / gorgeous / young etc"


I don't do people, I don't really do indoors, and at a wedding I don't often do sober!


Can anyone think of a polite way to refuse? I don't mind taking some candid's during the reception but I don't want to be the one with the formals and the pressure to get everyone during the party afterwards
 
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sorry I can't do it

sorry I don't want to do it

etc etc etc
 
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Uneducated_Rick said:
"not looking for anything too posed - more the natural type pictures, and obviously lots of me looking slim / gorgeous / young etc"
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Visit them and get plastered.

Try to jump in bed with them both, shouting "Whoopie. Last chance for either of you to change your mind".

When rejected pee in the future bride's make-up case in a fit of pique.

The next morning have a loud conversation with the future groom (within earshot of his beloved) stating;

"Look mate, photoshop is pretty damned good, but that heifer is expecting bloody miracles."


Photographing the wedding will no longer be a problem!
 
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Laudrup said:
Challenge yourself and do it.
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I'm photographing my daughter's wedding...I've read all the, "Don't do it", threads that are well meaning and sincere. My daughter has very little money and I've decided to 'give it a go!'

I have however, and will continue to do so, tell her to expect nothing.

I'm also, just been told by my wife, photographing my daugter's schools year 6 party...

You want to do it...do it.
You don't want to do it, tell them, and don't do it.

It is a rather simple dilemma to deal with.

Cheers.
 
thanks for the advice everyone - Tony, do you mind if I steal your dialogue word for word?

Mark - that sounds like a way of getting out of it without having to actually use the word 'no' - I like it :D
 
posiview said:
I'm photographing my daughter's wedding...I've read all the, "Don't do it", threads that are well meaning and sincere. My daughter has very little money and I've decided to 'give it a go!'

I have however, and will continue to do so, tell her to expect nothing.

I'm also, just been told by my wife, photographing my daugter's schools year 6 party...

You want to do it...do it.
You don't want to do it, tell them, and don't do it.

It is a rather simple dilemma to deal with.

Cheers.
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Andy, the only thing that I can fault about your thought process is that, as the father of the bride, you should be there to enjoy yourself/weep over the loss of your darling girl; not dashing about with a camera and sweating your bits off! :)
 
DemiLion said:
Andy, the only thing that I can fault about your thought process is that, as the father of the bride, you should be there to enjoy yourself/weep over the loss of your darling girl; not dashing about with a camera and sweating your bits off! :)
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Mark, if I have a quid for every time I've heard that I'd buy a D800....:D

I have to say, though, they are sage words...

Thanks.
 
Or do a pre wedding shoot to say you need to practice as people aren't really your forte and make all the pictures as abominable as possible.... cut off their heads, make bride look overweight/hairy faced/spotty/all of above. You never have to say no. They'll just bin you off...
 
DemiLion said:
"Look mate, photoshop is pretty damned good, but that heifer is expecting bloody miracles"
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Lmao... :lol:

Personally, I'd be tempted to give it a go on the proviso that they weren't expecting a pro job. In fairness when I got married I couldn't afford a pro photographer (didn't even know one back then) and asked my Brother who was more than handy with a camera to take some photos. Little did I realise what I was asking him, however what I ended up with we're brilliant and very much cherished by me and 'er indoors :cool:

You may just surprise yourself :)
 
I think you've already come up with the perfect answer.

"I don't do people, I don't really do indoors, and at a wedding I don't often do sober!"
 
Just be honest with them, tell them it's really not your thing and you aren't prepared to risk the only record of their big day.

DO NOT let them pressure you in to it. Just because its their "special day" and they are friends it doesn't mean you have to do it, if anything they are two more reasons no to do it!

Oh, and "I am not looking for anything to posed" soon becomes "we have a list of posed photos we'd like" closer to the date, or on the day! If you'd like to try it and be a second, pass my info on ;)

As for Posiview, you should be in the photos, not taking them!
 
Just say you've had a think about things and you'd rather be at their wedding as a guest.
 
Harvey_nikon said:
Oh, and "I am not looking for anything to posed" soon becomes "we have a list of posed photos we'd like"
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so true

In my experience people who arent paying you are more demanding than any paying client (probably because they arent paying so they can keep on adding stuff without worrying about being charged for extras - plus a lot of free shooters won't have a written agreement in place which gives some bridezillas licence to take the p)
 
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