Anyone else not looking forward to 2011?

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2010 has been quite a crap year for me. Ups and downs, mainly downs, going into 2011 virtually unemployed regardless that I graduated this year with a very good grade.......and penniless. I've lost all interest in my photography, the weather gets me down, I'm sick of being overweight, yet comfort eat when I get down so it is a viscious circle, and all my friends, literally, have had babies this year and although I don't want a kid, I feel that I'm lost in their conversations about stretch marks, nappies and sleepless nights. Don't think I've ever felt so lost. Venting over. :shake:
 
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Sounds to me like you've reached the perfect spring board into something new and brilliant. I've had more days than I care to remember the last few years where all that's kept me going is the thought there could be something really worth discovering just around lifes next corner.

Chance does favour the prepared mind, lets leap into 2011 and take it by storm. :D
 
Make some new yrs resolutions.. stick to them and move forward.. Or spend 2011 moaning about 2010 ... thats the choice you ahve :)
 
Worried about rising fuel and interest rates rising, the cost of living will be squeezed even tighter in 2011, i'm willing to sell a few things to make a macro lens purchase because landscape photography requires petrol and lots of it !
No holiday for me in 2011.
 
tax increases - further down turns in the economy - more rubbish football from my local team

whats to be happy about? :(
 
With results like yours, how can you be down ?

Good luck in the new year.
 
squizza said:
2010 has been quite a crap year for me. Ups and downs, mainly downs, going into 2011 unemployed regardless that I graduated this year with a very good grade.......and penniless. I've lost all interest in my photography, the weather gets me down, I'm sick of being overweight, yet comfort eat when I get down so it is a viscious circle, and all my friends, literally, have had babies this year and although I don't want a kid, I feel that I'm lost in their conversations about stretch marks, nappies and sleepless nights. Don't think I've ever felt so lost. Venting over. :shake:
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cheer up Shazza. Could be worse. :nuts:
 
This year has been mostly crap with a few good interludes so really csn't wait to move on :thumbs:
 
Gremlin said:
This year has been mostly crap with a few good interludes so really can't wait to move on :thumbs:
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I've had three operations on my knee this year. The last one left an 8cm long scar down to the bone, but filled in the hole in the cartilage I'd made for myself last December. Recovery will take at least another 6 months, but there's always a sunny side if I want or need it now.

Even the word 'hopeless' has hope in it - so I try to keep smiling.
 
Maybe you should look at the positives:

squizza said:
2010 has been quite a crap year for me. Ups and downs, mainly downs, going into 2011 unemployed regardless that I graduated this year with a very good grade.......and penniless.
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Ah well, at least you're not paying tax.

squizza said:
I've lost all interest in my photography,
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If you're skint maybe you could sell your gear?

squizza said:
I'm sick of being overweight, yet comfort eat when I get down so it is a viscious circle,
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Don't worry about the weight, at least it will help to keep you warm. :D

squizza said:
have had babies this year and although I don't want a kid, I feel that I'm lost in their conversations about stretch marks, nappies and sleepless nights.
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No stretch marks, no smelly sh***y nappies and you can sleep all night. Sounds better than what they are going through.



You've just got to be more positive. I've had the worst Christmas ever and 2011 is going to be really bad but it is not going to beat me. ****ing bring it on.

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squizza said:
2010 has been quite a crap year for me. Ups and downs, mainly downs, going into 2011 unemployed regardless that I graduated this year with a very good grade.......and penniless. I've lost all interest in my photography, the weather gets me down, I'm sick of being overweight, yet comfort eat when I get down so it is a viscious circle, and all my friends, literally, have had babies this year and although I don't want a kid, I feel that I'm lost in their conversations about stretch marks, nappies and sleepless nights. Don't think I've ever felt so lost. Venting over. :shake:
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cheer up ... think happy ... be happy ! :D

all the best for 2011 !
 
I have finished this year barely able to walk and on so many pain killers etc I probably rattle - but it gives me the great excuse to go to sleep whenever I wish (well, whenever I can no longer keep my eyes open). I am also catching up on my reading and improving my processing skills at a great rate.

Sarah, if all your friends have had babies this year why not treat them all as potential models - you might get some sales from it but if not you may find a niche for your photography (or learning retouching by taking pictures of the mum's and removing their stretch marks :)
 
As far as money goes, I'm going to need to be sensible next year. I have a nasty habit of buying stuff when I want it not when I can really afford it.

Thankfully I have a job, not one I can say I enjoy anymore but it pays the bills (just!). I think I'm just going to spend the year looking forward to 2012 when my loan is paid off.

On the plus side though, my hairs getting longer and I'm looking forward to having long(ish) hair for the first time in my life. :D

I'm also really looking forward to going out to take photographs rather than looking at lenses, filters and all that carry on.

So it's not all bad news for me really, money can't buy you happiness. :)
 
Look Sarah, we all get down at times, but get out there, grab the year by the horns and make it yours. Trust me on this, sitting there and whinging on an internet forum makes not an iota of difference, this time tomorrow, the 'vent' won't have relieved anything. On the otherhand, deciding that it's your life, kicking yourself up the arris, and getting on with it, will. Only YOU can do it and whilst the great people of this forum will be there to support, advise and push, only you can make the difference to your own life. Just do it!
 
"Live each day as it comes, life is not a rehersal"

Weight- that is something that only you be in control of believe me I am tackling that one at the moment, after all it is you hands that puts the food in your mouth no one else :nono:

Smelly nappies etc - you can keep them :lol: use your friends babies etc as models, great opportunity.:shrug:

Job prospect, just keep applying, looking etc there will be a job out there somewhere waiting for you, it is not going to come and find you, you have to go and find it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all get down and feel sorry for oursleves, just pick yourself up and brush yourself off and carry on with life, :shrug: you have the New Year to look forward to, you are lucky, some people don't:'(
 
Yv said:
Trust me on this, sitting there and whinging on an internet forum makes not an iota of difference,
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Well said YV, :thumbs:

Blew my car engine up last night, am I bothered, No, cost £400 to fix it, for a new engine, son will fit it good lad Richy, :clap: which I aint got but who cares,

Still got my wife and kids and grandkids Happy :thumbs:
 
Still got this ***ing year to get through without worrying about the future :(
 
Just Dave said:
Well said YV, :thumbs:

Blew my car engine up last night, am I bothered, No, cost £400 to fix it, for a new engine, son will fit it good lad Richy, :clap: which I aint got but who cares,

Still got my wife and kids and grandkids Happy :thumbs:
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:clap: Dave, you have been a bright spark of light round here recently, always welcoming new people an encouraging older members, you deserve a fabulous 2011. :beer: to you and yours.
 
Take positives from 2010 - in graduating with a good grade you have achieved something that took a massive effort and will stay with you for the rest of your life. Also you've avoided falling into parenthood just because all your friends have. "Nappy talk" rots the brain, I'm sure it's been clincially proven :naughty:. It rots mine, anyway! (which is probably why of my three really important close friends, two are women my own age that have no children...)

Being unemployed is rubbish, I remember it well enough myself after graduating. Lacking structure in my life meant lacking any desire to do anything with my time, irrespective of the lack of money to do it, so I drifted and my hobbies went by the board. It was especially hard after the amount of time I had spent working every day in my final year to suddenly stop and be faced with a void, worse still being single so lacking emotional support. Working meant having a lot less free time and consequently I was far more motivated to use it productively. I will only say keep the applications going in and in my experience something will turn up.

Best wishes for 2011.
 
Had a bad end to the this year, chronic cluster headaches finally wore me down and had a blow up at work where I allegedly used abusive and threatening behaviour to colleagues and the manager. Been off sick since early November and still got the discplinary case to deal with, apparently can happen with my condition and the meds involved
Had a chest infection all over Christmas and now the fog has messed with my asthma along with Raynauds white toes and fingers, so all in all not a happy bunny

Positive side now, realised that my job of 35 years has got past tolerable and other problems notwithstanding urgently need a change before my sanity is threatened.
Going to take my pension early and applied to study Social Policy as a full time mature degree student so hopefully can go on to become a debt/housing counsellor and put something back to the wider community (have a feeling these services are about to become rather sought after)

My daughter is halfway through her Optometry degree so she should be able to go on and make a decent living for herself. Wife has a job she enjoys after giving up her career to raise our child, so pleased about that.

So plusses outweigh the minus points and if all goes to plan should have more time to enjoy the countryside and take lots of wildlife pictures. Have a RSPB reserve no more than ten minutes walk away and need to get back to enjoying life again

So after initially worrying about the new year, have realised that things happen for a reason and could be a great year, but who knows

Just remember Sarah, its always darkest before dawn and things have a way of sorting themselves out for the best, sure it will for you too.
 
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It's all too easy to let the bad stuff get you down, and forget about all the good stuff.
I'm the worlds worst for doing this.
Sometimes you gotta sit back, and have a good think. Remember all the positive and good stuff. When you take time to think about this, you'll find there's a lot more good stuff going on than you think.

And always try to remember, there is always, no matter what, somebody MUCH worse off than you.
FITP summed it up nicely.
Each day you spend above the ground is a good one.

Most of the time, all the bad things in life can, with a bit of effort, be turned into a positive thing.

Chin up Sarah. Life ain't all that bad mate.
Honestly ;)
 
Yv said:
:clap: Dave, you have been a bright spark of light round here recently, always welcoming new people an encouraging older members, you deserve a fabulous 2011. :beer: to you and yours.
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Thanks Yv :thumbs:

Im happy and I know it :clap: my hands, wished I had a beer though, ah well
 
:shrug: I'm sure 2011 will be pretty much the same as any other year.
There will be some highs, and I'm already putting plans in place to make sure that the ones I can control WILL happen . . . and there'll probably be a fair load of crap as well.
It's how you deal with the latter that makes the difference.
You can either rise above it and turn it to your advantage or stay at home and feel sorry for yourself.

To Squizza :
The employment situation out there is pretty tough all round at the moment and although a good degree is a great starting point, many employers are looking for more than that - some real world work experience goes a long way.
While you're looking for work, there are plenty of charities out there that would be grateful for voluntary help (in whatever field you're interested in). Why not put something back into the community and improve your employability at the same time?

It'll keep you active and reduce the urge to comfort eat, plus give you back some sort of feeling of belonging and being useful . . . it has to be more constructive than feeling down about your situation and who knows what might come out of it?
 
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squizza said:
2010 has been quite a crap year for me. Ups and downs, mainly downs, going into 2011 virtually unemployed regardless that I graduated this year with a very good grade.......and penniless.:shake:
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i envy your youth...I'll swap with you....;)

still single after a divorce 30years ago, no kids, forgotten by family, pension doesn't cover bills so, at 69, still working in a part-time taxi job, health is defo sliding with Doctors now checking for ALS - some serious crap there -

BUT .....

each day I look at the dawn and marvel ...grab a camera, walk out and smell the early mist

you have so much life ahead of you, what happens today is gone when you rise tomorrow

best of luck to us all in 2011................:thumbs:
 
SarahLee said:
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While you're looking for work, there are plenty of charities out there that would be grateful for voluntary help (in whatever field you're interested in). Why not put something back into the community and improve your employability at the same time?
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I'm already doing voluntary working Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 845 - 1700 at a centre for adults with learning disabilities. :)

Being unemployed is very odd for me and very soul destroying as I have no money to do anything, buy anything, move on in my life and get my own place. I worked full time for 6 years before doing my degree and to be out of work is very bizarre.
 
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Sarah, try not to let things get on top of you completely. You're in a bad place right now, and you're depressed. That makes everything worse. Things you could normally deal with start developing a life of their own and getting themselves out of proportion, but they're really just the same issues.

Can I make a suggestion? Set yourself a goal, and make sure it's one you can reach on your own, without relying on others, or things that are beyond your control. You said you're "sick of being overweight". Find a good diet/programme - get some advice - that works for you, and set yourself a sensible set of targets. You'll feel a lot more positive once you start seeing results, and people notice, and you'll feel better, physically and psychologically. Try to laugh too. It's all a bit rotten right now, but laughter does help. All the best, lass.
 
To the OP I'd say that things could definitely be worse. At least you are not bogged down with kids so can go out and enjoy photography whenever you like without having to fit in with what the kids want to do. Also having been a student you are going to be used to having little money - it must be more difficult to go from having a full time job and lots of money to being made redundant for example. Statistically graduates earn something like 20% more on average over their lifetime (might be even more, can't remember).
 
squizza said:
I'm already doing voluntary working Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 845 - 1700 at a centre for adults with learning disabilities. :)

Being unemployed is very odd for me and very soul destroying as I have no money to do anything, buy anything, move on in my life and get my own place. I worked full time for 6 years before doing my degree and to be out of work is very bizarre.
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The voluntary work has got to be helping keep you busy - but yes, the cash situation must be really tough.
Is the voluntary work connected in any way to what you want to do as a career? - if not maybe you could expand it to help out with other areas of the charity that are more relevant to what you want to do.

Just don't give up - you will find something out there.
 
SarahLee said:
The voluntary work has got to be helping keep you busy - but yes, the cash situation must be really tough.
Is the voluntary work connected in any way to what you want to do as a career? - if not maybe you could expand it to help out with other areas of the charity that are more relevant to what you want to do.

Just don't give up - you will find something out there.
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The voluntary work is very rewarding - the people with learning difficulties have no fear about anything. I however, am only doing admin for the company who is run by Suffolk Council. Admin is a job I'm fine with doing in terms of 'someone give me a job' . I've totally lost count of the job applications I've done, tailoring each CV and application letter is so time consuming but all I keep getting is refusals. I'm aiming to reach (estimated!) 100 refusals by the end of Jan! :bonk: Most companies don't bother replying. The last refusal also added that they were more than impressed with my cv and app letter and could see that id spent an awful long time on it, yet they were not going to put me through for interview! :thumbsdown:

Regarding my career - wildlife photography is where my heart lies. I got published, all be it a small pic in BBC Wildlife Jan 2011 edition. I graduated in photography also so I have that behind me too.
 
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Keep your chin up Sarah and try and see the positives - not easy I know.

2010 was a fairly crap year for me too. The OH has had several relapses of her MS and now has a scooter if we need to go anywhere where a reasonable distance of walking is needed. William has had a deteriation of his condition and ended up, after 6 months of serious worry, having one of his brain tumours removed - unfortunatley they could only get on of the two causing problems - guess we will deal with that one when we need to. Next up for him will be kidney problems as he already has tumours on both of them :bang:.

Have the usual money and job worries but I am afraid that my attitude is that what happens happens.

My dad told me when William was diagnosed with TS at 4 months old that "**** happens but it is how you deal with it that matters" He was so right. I can't take away the problems that Paula and William have but just try to make the best of it, keep smiling and see what tomorrow brings.

You will get a job eventually, probably when least expecting it :thinking:.

Pm me sometime and come up to Bury for a wander round with the camera :thumbs:

Happy new year and welcome to 2011 :thumbs:

Nick
 
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The last one left an 8cm long scar down to the bone
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dod said:
That's a pretty deep scar, thick legs? :nuts:
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Oookay maybe that didn't come out right. The scar is 8cm long down my knee and is deep to the bone :lol: Thick leg would be lucky though - I ended up with pretty much complete muscle atrophy to my quads on that leg which I've only partially built back up 14 weeks later
 
People call me an optimist - I think of myself of a realist. The world is never as bad as people make it out to be, you just have to look for the good bits and enjoy them! Hope you soon feel much happier in 2011! :o)

David
 
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