Any divorced/separated/remarried people here?

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Anyone divorced/separated/remarried?

I am! Divorced and re-married. My divorce was/is the divorce from hell (seven years on, we still go to Court every year) and has made the papers on more than one occasion :shake: ~ long story.

Anyone else in the same boat?
 
I'm sure there are lots! I never married as I don't believe in it. I did split from my ex of 11 years but we are still very good friends. I'm sure that not all divorces etc end in heartache and tears.
 
Yep, divorced and engaged to marry the new lady in my life next year(new lady nothing to do with the divorce btw). The divorce was easy and no solicitors were involved and she (the ex) did not contest it.

I'm a big believer in the institute of marriage and was gutted when divorce was inevitable. Hey ho....**** happens.
 
I got married for a few weeks.. well I still am, will be another 4 months until a divorce can be applied for I think? Is it a year you have to wait in Scotland.. I don't know.
 
sorry but this is quite saddening to hear that people have had rough time in marriages...
Hope you all kept your chin up and got sorted in thte end.
 
Yep divorced and living with a new partner with no intention of ever getting married again.
 
I'm 46, been married 20 years and we never argue. Disagree from time to time, but never argue, life's too short. We have joint accounts, always have since we lived together.

Not trying to sound all mushy and all that, but I don't think my life would be the same without her. We really are a partnership. It's give and take, and understanding what to do or say (As Jennifer Aniston saiid in "The Break Up"..... "But I want you to "want" to do the dishes" I feel for all those of you that haven't experienced finding your true soulmate, even when life is bad you're never down.......


Right, I gotta go as she's telling me to make the tea I promised her 30 minutes ago... :rules:

Steve
 
Separated for 11 months. All very amicable, we still speak and even go out for a drink/to BBQs etc. with mutual friends etc.

We realized that we were growing apart after 25 years and that we would never be able to grow together again so decided that we should separate before things slid any further and it all got acrimonious.

Bought my 400D as a kind of pre-divorce present to myself :thumbs:

So, I have a vacancy for a suitably qualified person of the female variety - applications by PM :wave: :D
 
I've never been married, but my man has, we've been together for 17 years now and rather like Jester, I hope everyone gets the chance to find their "better half". Mine is also twice my age, though I was a "proper grown up" when we met! We work and live together 24/7, share the same interests and look at the world from completely different views, he's an airy fairy artist (bless) and I'm as practical as a blooming practical thing, but for us it works!
 
Jelster said:
I'm 46, been married 20 years and we never argue. Disagree from time to time, but never argue, life's too short. We have joint accounts, always have since we lived together.

Not trying to sound all mushy and all that, but I don't think my life would be the same without her. We really are a partnership. It's give and take, and understanding what to do or say (As Jennifer Aniston saiid in "The Break Up"..... "But I want you to "want" to do the dishes" I feel for all those of you that haven't experienced finding your true soulmate, even when life is bad you're never down.......
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Couldn't agree more.

My wife and I met at university back in 1994 and have been together ever since (married in '04). I really and honestly don't know what I'd do without her. We've been through a hell of a lot together and because of that we're stronger than ever.

Marriage was one of those things that just happened and we made it "official" as we were planning to have kids (Number 1 due any day now :bonk:). I'm a firm believer in making the most of your lot and I know now that we have a child, that if we do drift apart, we will do no matter what i takes to resolve the issue for the sake of the child.

We've actually discussed this recently as one of our neighbours has had a rather, putting it nicely, explosive divorce recently. Leaving 2 kids stuck in the middle. We both came to the conclusion that it's almost too easy to get divorced these days.

It's as if people get married without really knowing the person and then start to find out all the little details after the deed is done.

I guess I'm/we're just old fashioned in our outlook :D
 
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Friends for 10 years.
A couple for 4 years.
Married for 2 years.
Seperated for 1 year.

;)

Trying to sell the house at the moment, it's currently under offer.

I haven't been totally put off marriage but I am slightly jaded about it all now.
 
Do you think that marriage changes the dynamics of a relationship? I have known quite a few people who have been a couple for a long time, get married, then it's all over within a few years. Or do some people use marriage as a last ditch attempt to make it work?
 
Minimeeze

I think it must do. After all if you know each other that well how can it all go wrong so quickly for so many?

Like I said earlier, my wife and I went through a lot together as a couple so we know each others good and bad points. Maybe other people don't really get down to the nitty gritty of their personalities and therefore are destined to fail?

Ok so we still argue but hey, the making up is fun ;)
 
minimeeze said:
Do you think that marriage changes the dynamics of a relationship? I have known quite a few people who have been a couple for a long time, get married, then it's all over within a few years. Or do some people use marriage as a last ditch attempt to make it work?
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Yes I think marriage can change things, I was in a long term relationship, lived together 7 years before marriage and then divorced 4 years later, Last ditch attampt to sort out any differences and try to make things better? :shrug: Probably!
 
yup, I'd say it does

I was long term and then married, if I'm honest I knew it wasn't the right thing to do in my heart, but the whole thing was like a giant roller coaster :eek:
Things went off track from there and I'm now trying to escape it.
 
I'm with you there! Rose tinted glasses and all that.. you make yourself believe things are good and will work.
 
Well, married for 30+ years ... knew it was a disaster when I found my 14 year old daughter wasn't mine. Met Marianne (not the reason for divorce), got together seriously in 2005.

We realised we should have met and married each other years ago (probably did as we only lived about 6 miles from one another). Got Married in April and both are very happy. I can quite relate to 'wanting to do the dishes'.

Our Wedding (if you're at all interested).
 
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knew it was a disaster when I found my 14 year old daughter wasn't mine. Met Marianne (not the reason for divorce)
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Glad you cleared that up I thought it was your fault :exit: :D
Seriously though I can't imagine how that could affect your life.. talk about pulling the rug from under your feet!
 
I thought I had the best marriage ever in the history of marriages. Too much so I guess as I took my eye off the ball for a bit. Now I have a living nightmare with the person I once trusted above all else in life, using the one thing she knows will really hurt me. :'(

It's not at all possible to put aside the pain that's caused when kids become pawns but on the flip side, it does feel good to be released back into the wild after time in captivity. ;)
 
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minimeeze said:
Do you think that marriage changes the dynamics of a relationship? I have known quite a few people who have been a couple for a long time, get married, then it's all over within a few years. Or do some people use marriage as a last ditch attempt to make it work?
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Yeah I think it can, especially so if you've been in a long relationship.

digitalfailure said:
I was long term and then married, if I'm honest I knew it wasn't the right thing to do in my heart, but the whole thing was like a giant roller coaster :eek:
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Sounds very familiar ;) I'm still waiting to get off :eek:
 
My thoughts are that people dont stay the same. (Well, nothing stays the same does it) If one partner grows and the other doesnt then a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion anyway:)
 
After marriage you also don't know if you are still together because you feel tied or because you want to be? I wouldn't know about that though.. I didn't get much time to experience that.. I don't even feel married. It was an expensive climax to nothing :D Gotta laugh though. I suppose no-one knows if their marriage is for life till your dead.. and by then.. well it's game over I suppose.
 
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Strange thing marriage - the old cliche of course is that marriage is an institution and who wants to live in an institution.

Would I marry again having got it completely wrong the first time round? Now, probably yes [though I dont think Mr LL is about to propose anytime soon, he says he can't abide cruelty to animals :lol: ], though I don't feel any mad urge to do so immediately, but if you had asked me 5 or 6 years ago, absolutely no way, was still rubbing antiseptic on the bite marks then. The weird thing is that our 8th wedding anniversary coincided with the decree nisi coming through...I have now been divorced longer than I was married which makes me feel quite old :(
 
BeHappy said:
My thoughts are that people dont stay the same. (Well, nothing stays the same does it) If one partner grows and the other doesnt then a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion anyway:)
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How very true. :D

It was certainly the case with my first wife, who i married fairly young. Over the years I grew up whereas she just grew old :shake:
 
The weird thing is that our 8th wedding anniversary coincided with the decree nisi coming through
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The statement for arrangements for children that came with my divorce papers was dated on the 10th aniversary. The decree nisi was far better, dated the 4th of July. :D
 
Become Single, then take time to,
Pay off:- the overdraft.
Pay off:- the credit cards.
Save up:- then buy lot's of Canon toys, lot's of fun and no nagging!!!
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jimybell said:
Become Single, then take time to,
Pay off:- the overdraft.
Pay off:- the credit cards.
Save up:- then buy lot's of Canon toys, lot's of fun and no nagging!!!
Jim
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Um.. I have a new g/f (well my old g/f from back in the school days.. cue an "awwwwww" from the ladies) but she just chuckles at me buying gadgets.. (cue a "lucky b****d" from the lads) :woot:
 
I got married once. It should have been one of the happiest days of my life but it was one of the saddest, even the vicar cried.

I had been living with my partner (who was divorced) for 14 years. Blissfully happy, no real intention of getting married any day soon. Well we had been engaged for four years, it doesn't pay to rush things. We moved into a new house and he was planning on eventually getting married on the front lawn of our new house. Except he was diagnosed as terminally ill. We had to seek special permission from the registrar to get married at home in case he didn't live long.

So I found myself married and widowed in fairly short order.

Would it stop me marrying again? No. I'm a romantic little sod and I love to love. I need love in my life.

Thankfully I have it again and there was a time I thought I never would.
I also inherited a stepdaughter and I've found that that is a very uncomplicated kind of love too.
 
AliB said:
I got married once. It should have been one of the happiest days of my life but it was one of the saddest, even the vicar cried.

I had been living with my partner (who was divorced) for 14 years. Blissfully happy, no real intention of getting married any day soon. Well we had been engaged for four years, it doesn't pay to rush things. We moved into a new house and he was planning on eventually getting married on the front lawn of our new house. Except he was diagnosed as terminally ill. We had to seek special permission from the registrar to get married at home in case he didn't live long.

So I found myself married and widowed in fairly short order.
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Oh, that is so sad... I'm sorry to hear that :hug:
 
That's sad, at least things are on the up. The marriage although short won't mean any less to you I'm am sure :)

On a lighter note.. does that smiley above not look like you are getting your head checked for nits? :D
 
hepburn said:
How very true. :D

It was certainly the case with my first wife, who i married fairly young. Over the years I grew up whereas she just grew old :shake:
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and the second one? :lol: :popcorn:
 
I'm getting me bumps felt! Shhhh! :D

Yep, life is good again, just goes to show that no matter how bad it gets at times, it's well worth sticking around, you never know what's round the corner. In my case it's my insane family that I've inherited. :woot:
 
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