A sign of the times.....?

[Musicman]

You just reminded me of another detail...

I have a similar issue with my brother-in-law's family.

I'm afraid it means I'm rather less inclined to take photographs of his children (especially when playing with my own son) when we visit.

Ho hum

I knew they had some reservations about photographs on the net.

I run my own server. I'd put the pics in a password protected gallery and it was when I sent them the password that they asked me to take them down. The only other people that had access were my wife and the grandparents. They were still worried. :shrug:

 

[Landscape71]

Obviously they're very protective and that's natural and certainly a very good thing.

Ultimately it's their decision and assuming you don't want to alienate them then respecting their wishes and concern is the best way to respond.

Perhaps they don't understand the technology to the extent you do and if you can demonstrate that the process is as secure as can be expected (bare in mind that nothing is perfect and hacking sadly happens) hopefully they might be more open to the idea.

I really understand your frustration but, to be fair, I also have to be open to considering their standpoint.

 

[Musicman]

Ultimately it's their decision and assuming you don't want to alienate them then respecting their wishes and concern is the best way to respond.

Oh, indeed. They have their reasons (some of them specific to their circumstances) and I have to respect their choice even if I think it's somewhat paranoid.

However, I do make plain my disagreement with their general view that nobody should be allowed to publish any photograph of anyone anywhere without their prior permission.

 

[MisterE]

Tell her you've shown them to a paedophile colleague for assessment as to suitability and he said it's not what they're looking for.


And for those confused by the word 'paedophile' above - yes this is the correct spelling.

 

[Landscape71]

They're entitled to their opinion regarding their ideals but I'd also hope they are aware it doesn't reflect the current legal position.

Sadly it sounds like you might be stuck with the situation - if you are to avoid conflict then it appears accepting (although not necessarily respecting) their decision is the only viable option.

 

[goldenlight]

It's totally illogical and very frustrating but, if you want to avoid a huge familly conflict it's best to comply with their wishes with good grace.

It seems that fear of publishing on the Internet is now the Western equivalent of "the camera will steal your soul."

Media hysteria doesn't help, neither does the policy of trying to integrate convicted paedophiles surrepticiously back into the community or the seemingly total lack of control over the Internet, which to many is a dark and dangerous place with potential threats and anonymous perverts at every click of the mouse.

My wife and I disagree about how we should manage our eleven year old daughter's safety on the Internet. My wife thinks it best to totally ban her from chat rooms, Facebook etc by enforcing strict parental controls on the computer. I take the view that our daughter will go on these sites anyway when visiting friends with more relaxed parents and I'd rather she experiences them under our supervision, discussing the dangers and common sense precautions openly with us. I'd also rather she felt able to seek our advice if she wasn't sure about something or it was worrying her, rather than not dare to admit she had been on a particular site. It's a nasty, tough old world out there and ultimately no child can avoid it so I think it's best to prepare them for survival rather than stick our heads in the sand and hope the problem will go away. I'd rather be right there beside her as she faces the challenges life will throw at her over the next few years, rather than force her to face them alone.

 

[grum]

Tell her you've shown them to a paedophile colleague for assessment as to suitability and he said it's not what they're looking for.

Anyone else think that the thing likely to cause more paedophilia is actually the hysteria itself? There's probably loads of people out there who never thought about kids in a sexual way until they spent years reading about it in the tabloids every day (next to the pics of page 3 girls dressed as saucy schoolgirls etc). :bang:

My friend has a Russian wife who lives here now and she finds our national obsession with paedophilia really creepy and unpleasant.

 

[retired]

I have a Photium site and I can select a password, disable “right click” and also put a watermark across the pics if need be.
Tell her that only she can view the pictures and pass on the code to the people she wants to view them.

Mind you it just might be a polite way of telling you the pictures are crap

 

[Richard King]

how is a child being christened going to turn on a paedophile? If the children are 6 & 7, and dancing naked in a a paddling pool - that's a different story (dont get me onto Nan Goldin)

do the parents have tinted windows on the car?, not show the children in public anywhere?

 

[Harvey_nikon]

I'd of treated them like I would my family, told them they were being complete idiots and refused to take them down as they were my photos.

The problem is theirs, not yours, let them deal with it.

(or asked for payment to remove them because my web server charges me to remove things if they haven't been up for 6 months (they seem the gullible type ))

 

[BigSoy]

If this was a member of my family they'd have got the both-barrels explanation of why they're mental

 

[Andrew Evans]

i find this ridiculous too. it's a shame but i doubt it's going to change in the future, it's going to get worse.

 

[Cris_L]

All good input, makes me wonder what chance this poor little girl has got as she grows up. i agree with a previous poster who said we have to prepare our children for the cruel world not shelter them from it.

I was reminded by someone that there are still a couple of pics on my flickr account, better remove them before a P**** gets off on them!

 

[hollis_f]

I'd be sure to give the kid a burqa for Xmas. That should make the parents very happy.

 

[Doddy1974]

This whole subject is a bit of a raw subject with me. Having been to court last week in relation to a P****, I am in two minds whether to put pictures of my children online. I want to because I want to share my pictures, not because they are my kids, but because I am proud of my photos. However, I am worried about who will view them. I don't want a particular person being able to see pictures of my children.
Chances of this person finding my account and viewing my pictures are immensely slim, but it's still a worry.

If people ask for pictures of their children not to be posted, please respect their decision. It is unfair, and mostly irrational, but it's a fear that is on very rare occasion, justified.

 

[anniephoto]

If people ask for pictures of their children not to be posted, please respect their decision. It is unfair, and mostly irrational, but it's a fear that is on very rare occasion, justified.

That's what I was trying to say.... sometimes you have to just trust people are doing it for the right reason and respect their decision. We have no right to expect people to divulge their reasons if they are well founded, it's likely to be a very private and personal matter.