In the good old days of film,it was all quite easy - standard lenses came with cameras and you bought extra ones as the need arose.
For a 35mm lens, 'standard was roughly equivalent to 50mm - or what corresponded to a 'normal' or 'standard' angle of view - as the human eye sees, in other words.
Wide angle lenses were those of 35mm or less and telephoto lenses, those of 85mm or more.
With the advent of DSLRs it got a bit complicated - the sensors uses were not the same size as a 35mm film negative, so the angle of view was altered.
Even though the same lenses could be used on both types of cameras, they offer different angles of view - 50mm on a film camera, equates to about 75mm on most DSLRs.
So, to get the same angle of view as a film camera, you needed a different lens.
With zoom lenses it's less of an issue, as the standard or 'kit' lenses often range from medium-wide to short-tele, with the 'standard' angle of view somewhere in the middle.
Most of us who've been doing this for a while have adapted our equipment to include lenses with the focal lengths that we use most.
I used to use my 17-35mm for wide-angle shots when I shot film, but now use it as a 'standard' lens as the angle of view it offers on digital is less 'wide' - to get the same effect as I used to get, I had to buy a 14mm lens and will soon be getting a wider zoom to fill the gaps.
What you need to do is decide what it is you want from a lens - do you find that you constantly need to move further away from the subject to 'get more in', or do you always end up moving closer?
Extreme wide-angle lenses will slightly distort the scene in front of you. The best way is to try before buying - go to a shop. Those are those things on the High Street, not the little screen attached to the computer in the corner. They'll let you try a lens on your camera beforehand so you can decide if it really suits your needs.
Using filters on wide lenses is fraught with problems, the least of which is that at wider apertures, the filter housing may become visible, resulting in vignetting.
With digital, there is very little that can be done with a filter that cannot be done in photoshop - why add hardware to the camera when it can all be done post-production?
There's more to it than this, but to save space it might be an idea if you buy a couple of books on basic camera skills and do some swotting. Go to the local bookshop and check out anything by Michael Langford - he pretty much knows everything (smug git) and his books are the default reference material for most photo courses in the UK up to degree level.