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I don't know if it's OCD and I don't know if it can be diagnosed per-se... If I buy something, wear something do anything and it's not perfect it BUGS ME. It bothers me to a point that it is always on my mind and constantly unsettles me. It can often be really stupid things and it can sometimes be more serious things. The trivialities include such things as:

A scuff on my camera, the 'EOS' rubbing off my camera
A chip out of the screen on my phone
Too many icons on my computer desktop
Loose threads
Dust on things
Clutter
Half-filled glasses left about the place


... the list goes on, but you get the jist! :cuckoo:

Some other serious matters include me contemplating whether or not my relationship is 'perfect'. That makes me feel like an ARSE because my girlfriend is amazing to me.

Some of these matters I will literally waste hours on the internet pondering over. My recent search history includes the phrases "Silver paint for Canon logo", "touch up repair paint for Canon camera", etc...

I don't think there's a cure for whatever this is, but I'm hoping someone out there understands and knows a way of coping with it because I'm going insane! :bonk:
 
Hi Eddy

The first list, well we all get niggled by things, but to obsess about them - not so good.

Wondering about your relationship when your girlfriend who is "amazing" - more serious I would say.

You don't give any more details about yourself or your current life/situation so it's difficult to give advice.

My personal experience of situations like this is that you need to find something else to occupy your mind, easier said than done of course, but essential to break the rut, even if it's only for brief periods.

Sounds like you are worried by this, and I assume want to change your behavior. I'm sure there will be plenty more advice along soon.

HTH

David
 
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Hi Eddy

The first list, well we all get niggled by things, but to obsess about them - not so good.

Wondering about your relationship when your girlfriend who is "amazing" - more serious I would say.

You don't give any more details about yourself or your current life/situation so it's difficult to give advice.

My personal experience of situations like this is that you need to find something else to occupy your mind, easier said than done of course, but essential to break the rut, even if it's only for brief periods.

Sounds like you are worried by this, and I assume want to change your behavior. I'm sure there will be plenty more advice along soon.

HTH

David
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Hi David,

Thanks for that. :) I guess I am just bored with life. I'm a recent graduate and am stuck doing a run-of-the-mill desk job. Pays well enough, but I by no means intend to stay here. Problem is, I'm unsure of what the next step is.

I guess it was wrong to say that I'm 'unsure' about my relationship, because my girlfriend is the only happy thing about my miserable 9-5 existence at the moment :p I just ponder the future for us, because she is very much certain of where she's going whereas I am the complete polar opposite. :shake:

I know I want to move on with my photography and take it more professionally, but I'd be kidding myself if I said I was ready for that.

Wow, this has opened a whole new can o'worms. It does all come back to the same stuff though. I fill my mind with worry and anxiety over stupid little things rather than focusing on the bigger picture... I just feel a little trapped in my day-to-day, with seemingly no light at the end of the tunnel!
 
There are times when one has to do what brings in the money especially if thinking about getting married and setting up home, later on having kids. Having been there myself the only thing that kept me with the company was paying the mortgage and putting food in my sons mouths.

I don't think there are that many who wouldn't rather be doing something else, but stick with their jobs for the reasons I gave.

Value what you have already and don't give up dreaming of what is out there to grab hold of work wise
 
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All of these things Eddy point to an underlying problem, which imo is a bit deeper within yourself, those little things you do are just a side effect of the real problem. Personally I would say you are unhappy about something, it may even be two or three things in your life that you are trying to find the answer to. If you can try and recognise what that is then you are well on the way to doing something about it. Discuss it with your partner if you have not already, do not try and deal with it yourself, sometimes we can get all wrapped up and confused just looking for an answer. That in itself will then make matters worse, whatever it is look on the positive side of how you can resolve it.
 
Wow, thanks guys - this puts things into a little more perspective. Perhaps I will talk to my girlfriend about it. I would just like to avoid upsetting her. She has quite a perfect future lined up for us I seem to believe...
 
Eddzz!! said:
Wow, thanks guys - this puts things into a little more perspective. Perhaps I will talk to my girlfriend about it. I would just like to avoid upsetting her. She has quite a perfect future lined up for us I seem to believe...
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Maybe that's it. You just said it yourself SHE has a perfect future lined up for us you believe. Maybe you feel under pressure without even knowing it. Maybe it's time you sat down with a doctor and had a chat.
 
I say,build a bridge and get over it....:D
 
u8myufo said:
All of these things Eddy point to an underlying problem, which imo is a bit deeper within yourself, those little things you do are just a side effect of the real problem. Personally I would say you are unhappy about something, it may even be two or three things in your life that you are trying to find the answer to. If you can try and recognise what that is then you are well on the way to doing something about it. Discuss it with your partner if you have not already, do not try and deal with it yourself, sometimes we can get all wrapped up and confused just looking for an answer. That in itself will then make matters worse, whatever it is look on the positive side of how you can resolve it.
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pepi1967 said:
Maybe that's it. You just said it yourself SHE has a perfect future lined up for us you believe. Maybe you feel under pressure without even knowing it. Maybe it's time you sat down with a doctor and had a chat.
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Have to agree with both of these boys.
It can get out of hand before you've even realised it. MUCH tougher to deal with then.
 
pepi1967 said:
Maybe that's it. You just said it yourself SHE has a perfect future lined up for us you believe. Maybe you feel under pressure without even knowing it. Maybe it's time you sat down with a doctor and had a chat.
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:agree:
 
I have similar issues. Not quite as bad but I do have them.

I find I stress more about the little things when the bigger this are out of my control (or at least feel like they are). What I do is break down the bigger issues into smaller ones and then work out whether I can do something about it or not. If it is completely out of my control then I put it to one side. Admittedly I do also have a tendency to go to far the other way and stop caring about everything.

Its all about finding the middle ground for me.

I'm still looking!
 
I think that first list just represent quite normal traits that although not shared by everyone, are probably quite common. I get annoyed by the cups that the misses leaves under the bed when she retires for a kip after a night shift. It's not OCD, it's just annoying....

Then there are the things that you just get carried away about - I can associate with that. If I get the go-ahead to, say, go on a ski holiday I'll spend pretty much every waking hour pawing over the holiday websites, oohing and aahing and usually missing out on deals because I haven't totally decided. I'm a sod for losing myself on the Internet - I think it's an obsessive trait but not necessarily OCD.

In terms of 'wierd' traits that are more like OCD, if I scratch my knee (or other body part where there are two of) I have to scratch the other. I have to. The same amount of times. I also ahve to check the house doors are locked several times before going to bed - I check one, then check the other, then recheck, then recheck.... It annoys me but I can't force myself to go up to bed if I haven't done this. I'll lie awake and will HAVE to physically say to myself "I have locked all the doors" in order to rest easy.
 
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specialman said:
. I'll lie awake and will HAVE to physically say to myself "I have locked all the doors" in order to rest easy.
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At one time I was heading to OCD land with this 'having' to check I'd locked up 9 times after leaving the house.

eventually through force of will I've got down to just checking once , which is closer to normal than OCD
 
From a basis of no knowledge whatsoever, I would say the things that are bothering you are normal concerns, that are getting blown out of proportion- maybe a control thing?
I would definitely consider talking to a professional - maybe looking into NLP to break the obsession cycle?
 
Headless Lois said:
From a basis of no knowledge whatsoever, I would say the things that are bothering you are normal concerns, that are getting blown out of proportion- maybe a control thing?
I would definitely consider talking to a professional - maybe looking into NLP to break the obsession cycle?
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Not sure about NLP as it has a lot of critics, but take a look at Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), the idea behind it is to anticipate the feelings that are getting blown up/causing concern and learning methods to cope with them. What the OP has sounds like anxiety, but it's impossible to know from a brief description.

If the OP really feels like this is a problem, PLEASE see your GP immediately. It might seem like that's going too far at this early stage, but if you can nip this kind of thing in the bud early on, there's a much better chance of getting it sorted out quickly. Best of luck.
 
Anxiety sounds like something I could relate this to. I have experienced anxiety before, especially in work. When I let work get on top of me I used to experience shortness of breath and difficulty breathing. I learnt to control those emotions and the pain would subside. I guess suppressing those feelings wasn't the best thing to do...
 
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