To all dads.....words for thought

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First off, happy fathers day! Enjoy it. It's the one day a year when you can legitimately request to be waited on hand and foot (as opposed to just wishfully expecting it :D)....

To all dads who don't see their children, I'd just like to say this....Don't waste another moment. If you can, then go see them. Don't let anything stop you, especially pride, hurt, or other feelings. Feelings can be pushed aside. Do the right thing and go see your children.

One day it's going to be too late.

I grew up with a 'Sunday' dad. Every sunday we'd go round to his house (parents split up).
The bond was never really 'there' as it was with my mum. Sometimes I would say I didn't want to go...just so I could play with my mates instead.
As I grew older, I started seeing him more....the occasional pint or brew here and there...I'd pop into see him at work. He even taught me to drive at first. And I used to borrow his car when I passed my test (Renault 18 :D)

Then in 1997, when I was 20....Cancer got the better of him and he died.....quickly.

Now, I REALLY regret not spending more time with him. Don't get me wrong, there was never this unbreakable, masculine, father-son, bond that you see in films. But he was my dad...and I really miss him.

Over the past 10 years, I've had my two children, got married, even followed in his footsteps and became a bus driver for a few years....and I never got to talk to him about ANY of it.

I would have loved nothing more than to discuss work with him, driving buses...discuss being a parent...getting married...anything, just pop round to his house, or him pop round to mine for a brew and a catchup.

Now I can't, and I really wish I spent more time with him when I had the chance.
Luckily I have my two children to make fathers day a happy event for me, and I can celebrate it for that.
I can also celebrate it by thanking my mums husband for being a stepfather.

But I can't wish my dad happy fathers day...and I really wish I could.

So everyone out there...give your dad an extra big hug for the ones who can't, and make a promise today, to spend more time...before it's too late :)

Dad...wherever you are...Happy Fathers Day mate....I'll raise a cup of tea for you.
 
Gosh Marcel - that bought a lump to my throat, you sentimental git! :p

I grew up not having my dad around (parents divorced when I was 8), and as I have never known any different, it doesn't bother me. I met my dad again when I was 24 (he lives in Australia) and have never heard a thing fom him since... that was 9 years ago.
 
Wow, Marcel! Thankfully, I wasn't put in the position of dealing with a split until me and my sister were mature enough to handle it properly. No my Dad has gone for good too, and even though he moved to another country for the last few years of his life, I do miss him terribly - if nothing else than to have the occassional chat on the phone.

And yes, I have my own two that make me smile every day of the week! It's great being a Dad!
 
Aww that is very nice Marcel. :'( Sentimental git is right,lol Im sure you make a great daddy yourself Marcel. Hope you had a good father's day everyone!


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As someone else who got to be the Dad but not having mine any more, that's a post that really hits the mark.

Put almost as well as Ian Dury too, nicely done Marcel.
 
only just saw this post. Very thoughtful Marcel, very nicely put too.
 
Thanks :) Kind words ladies and gents, kind words :)
Well I got dragged around a 'fair' yesterday and was coerced into spending the national debt of a small country on my kids....

I thought it was supposed to be MY day? :shrug: :lol:

All in all I enjoyed it.
I didn't go to my dads grave. I have rarely been since he died. Went last year though as my stillborn nephew is now in the same plot, but thats another thread for another time..:)

The day passed with some thoughts of my own dad, and the mistakes I made, which I suppose is a good time....it's always good to reflect and try to become a better person because of it. :thumbs:

Once again, thanks for the kind words, and I hope you made that little bit of extra effort to show your dad you care.....because tomorrow is always too late :)
 
I lost my dad two weeks ago, Marcel is so right. Fortunately he got to see me married and he got to see me have kids, but not being able to phone hm on fathers' day for the first time in twenty years was pretty awful. :(
 
neos said:
I lost my dad two weeks ago, Marcel is so right. Fortunately he got to see me married and he got to see me have kids, but not being able to phone hm on fathers' day for the first time in twenty years was pretty awful. :(
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neos I'm really sorry to hear that mate. Please accept my condolences.

For what it's worth...I know it sounds like an old cliche...but it does get easier...I promise.

If you need to chat anytime, grab me on MSN

marcelbooth@hotmail.com

I know from experience how beneficial it is to talk to someone, even if it's just to natter on to a stranger :)

My ears are open if you need em :)
 
Thanks marcel, that's a very kind offer
 
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