Starting to get really nervous about uni :(

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I move into my accommodation a week saturday, and start a week monday. I'm bricking it.

Not so much the thought of everything that needs to be done, but more the thought of having to fend for myself, a whole new system, nobody I recognise, etc etc etc.

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Best thing to do when you move in is make your bed - at least then you'll be able to collapse after going out with your new flat/house mates even if nothing else is unpacked.


NOTE: also leave a straight, clear path from door to bed, otherwise you will kick/trip over things every night for quite a while


Also leave your door open as much as possible, people will stick their heads in and say hello that way
 
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yep theres girls, booze, partying and probably 1000 people just like you. Just get in there quick and do some bonding :):)

Uni is a great time and it will set you for life
 
hey and don't forget to shoot loads of portraits whilst you are there...for payment of course. What town are you in?
 
artona said:
Just don't get caught :D:D:D:D
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About 2 and a half years ago I had that moment in a lad's life that everyone experiences.

I fancied a girl, messed her around a bit in my teenage attempt at a bit of nooky. She got fed up, pee'd off, and found another lad. It was at that point I realised what I'd lost and fell brutally in love with her.
A year later I'd finally got myself back on track to getting over her.

I'm glad I experienced that as I vowed never to get myself into that mess again.

I'm worried, however, that it will happen with my current girlfriend.
If we were to break up, I wouldn't want it affecting my uni experience, and it's entirely possible, and likely, that it will.

No, I've not had a bit to drink tonight, I'm just in a spill my guts kind of mood :p
 
excellent area for earning a good living from portrait photography. My nephew is starting at Southampton, doing the graphics arts course

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Foodpoison, all I can advise is to enjoy every sinle minute. You'll have highs, low and inbetweens and when you're skint you'll be fed up. But head down on the course and party with as many friends as you can and you'll be okay. :)
 
Good luck, young-man. I am sure you'll blend in perfectly well :thumbs:

Good heads'-up on the bed thing, and keeping your room a bit tidy. Remember your way around the room with your eyes closed. You'll need that skill to head to the toilet after a good night out and when you've just crashed out :p

As for your gf being there. I know what that is like, and it will get in the way, I assure you it will. No couple will go without their ups and downs; and this will have an effect on your studies. How to circumvent this, all I can suggest is that you make it a point, whenever you're down, stick your heads in your books not the pubs and pints. Stay focused, stay very focused. Always remind yourself what's at the end of all this and how you will be well rewarded once you've completed your degree. I pray and hope things go smoothly, and sorry if I sounded too pragmatic.

Stay focused and enjoy yourself; you'll do very well.
 
Hey buddy, i am just about to go to my second year in Salisbury... Am a bit scared too tbh - i found some of the people on my course a bit difficult to get on with and we have an art teacher next year who seems to HATE modern photography (hes our photography tutor...)

but we will see, there are LOADS of cool people in Southampton you will get on fine i am sure!

and your always welcome for tea here in Salisbury if you need to escape xx
 
are you and your gf on the same course too? i finished uni a couple of years ago and i actually really hated it. i had a few friends, but the halls were really depressing and the campus was a dump, so i struggled to get through the 3 years. I ended up staying up late every night watching films to keep myself occupied and ended up achieving a lot lower than I should have. Luckily I managed to pick myself up after Uni and am happy in my current job.

My advice would be to go out have fun, meet new quirky people (I found I met more wierdo's than cool people! I think it was because everyone is so nervous). But don't forget why your there, so keep the balance with everything.

Hope it goes well for you, and your experience is better than mine. :thumbs:
 
interesting that no-one has mentioned getting your head down and doing some work - I thought that's what you did at uni!
 
awp said:
interesting that no-one has mentioned getting your head down and doing some work - I thought that's what you did at uni!
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No. That's what you're supposed to do. I think it's optional now though!


Steve.
 
has the OP or anyone elses suggested NOT getting your head down and working? i think uni is very expensive and a lot of hard work to boot, but if someone says 'i am feeling a bit nervous about this' its right for people to point out the good bits going on and the life to expect in between the work

and i really cant see on this thread where anyone has suggested anything to the contrary!
 
its actually quite sad that uni life is now just about partying all the time and how many people get themselves into debt and drop out before graduating. The amount of times police were called onto the campus after the club nights and how many people were stabbed or mugged as result. And this is Brunel University, a fairly 'respectable' institution.
 
feeb said:
has the OP or anyone elses suggested NOT getting your head down and working? i think uni is very expensive and a lot of hard work to boot, but if someone says 'i am feeling a bit nervous about this' its right for people to point out the good bits going on and the life to expect in between the work

and i really cant see on this thread where anyone has suggested anything to the contrary!
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really? the entire thread was about partying/girls/booze - but then you're a student so you'll know how much time there is for working. ;)
 
awp said:
interesting that no-one has mentioned getting your head down and doing some work - I thought that's what you did at uni!
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Wail said:
Good luck, young-man. I am sure you'll blend in perfectly well :thumbs:

.........., stick your heads in your books not the pubs and pints. Stay focused, stay very focused. Always remind yourself what's at the end of all this and how you will be well rewarded once you've completed your degree. I pray and hope things go smoothly, and sorry if I sounded too pragmatic.

Stay focused and enjoy yourself; you'll do very well.
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i dont drink booze - and do my partying in the summer when the festivals are on (taking photos too of course... buisness hoildays and all that :P)

To be honest, at 25 i find myself a bit 'old' for the party scene at uni, its all 19 year olds putting their tongues in eachothers ears and things :P

the other crazy thing i have found is that very few of the people i go to college with, seem to have TAKEN photos this summer at all, or have anything they particularly like taking photos of...

perhaps that will improve next year who knows -
I still have fun, generally with my own mates outside of the uni click and yeah i do party once a month or whatever and i DO get my work done, i go to uni with people who get everything done as soon as it is set and they dont get better marks than me, its all about compromise and time management!

I think 25 should be the average age of Uni students though, there is no way you can KNOW what you want to be doing for a big portion of your life at 19... i am much clearer now and therefore much more settled and happy to work hard
 
maybe im an exception, i dont know... but i think the youth need to given guidance and help to me more mature from a younger age and take life little more seriously. most of the 16-19 years i come across are absolutely clueless about everything in life, and it takes them a good 10 years to figure out what they want to do in life, and their best years for learning and developing further have gone.

I new I wanted to work in finance at the age of 15, i picked my alevels and my degree to help me get into that area. I knew exactly what I wanted to do at the age of 15.
 
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hsuffyan said:
I new I wanted to work in finance at the age of 15, i picked my alevels and my degree to help me get into that area. I knew exactly what I wanted to do at the age of 15.
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You are, truly, fortunate. I'm not being sarcastic, but I'm 56 and I'm still not sure about this. Life has been pretty good though, and I'm not complaining.

Sean, just relax. You'll be fine. I went to uni back in the days when we got grants, which was a different time and place, but I doubt if things have changed that much. This is a time to explore and enjoy your new environment, as well as work, while you don't really have any major responsibilities. Take time to dream a bit too - that gets harder as you grow older! We all drank far too much, partied, experimented with what you might call "recreational pharmaceuticals" and met and had relationships with other people, and came out of the other end, largely intact, and knowing a lot more about ourselves than when we started. Its a wonderful experience.

I'm not any sort of expert on human relationships, and I've screwed up a few things along the way - my wife would probably be the first to corroborate this - but most things tend to work out one way or another. Going to uni with your girlfriend and staying in the same hall could be an issue, but it's a reality, and some students would probably envy you because you both have a sound relationship to help you get through the initial adjustments, and that's worth a lot. I don't know you, obviously, and I don't know if your relationship will survive, but you're both going to get on with your lives and the next few years are going to happen one way or the other. Good luck, mate.
 
MartynK - you sound like a proper dude, what a wonderful bit of sharing advice your post was :)

muchos respect to you

if you ever write a book i want the second copy - wife gets the first one of course ;)

take care x
 
foodpoison said:
I move into my accommodation a week saturday, and start a week monday. I'm bricking it.

Not so much the thought of everything that needs to be done, but more the thought of having to fend for myself, a whole new system, nobody I recognise, etc etc etc.

:hug:
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University is one of the best experiences in life. Lots of people say you don't need to go to Uni to get a good job. That might be true, but you're missing out on one hell of a time. Study hard, play hard. Nothing to be nervous about. You'll find that the independence you gain by going to uni and staying in halls will do you a world of good when you finish and go out into the world.

You'll get to know people very quickly, given the nature of what University is. The students Union will help. Join some associations and clubs.

Seriously mate. I wish I could go back to University. I loved it.
 
Guys, this is the TP I enjoy.

Martyn mate, that post really helped me.
I've been trying to tell myself that (mainly your last paragraph) and I know at the bottom of my heart that it's true, but I'm a huge worrier. What ifs would destroy my life if I wasn't careful!

Thanks for all the positive comments guys, seriously. Thanks.
 
Sign up for every have a go session you can at the Fresher's Fair (or whatever you Uni calls it) - you'll never know the new stuff you'll love until you try it, nor the random and amazing people you'd never otherwise meet as your lives would never cross
 
Best of luck for next Saturday - I really hope it all goes well for you.

Yes you'll inevitably have ups and downs . . . both in your relationships and your studies, but that's just the way life goes.
Enjoy every minute of the good times and make sure that you learn from the bad. They're the things that'll set you up for life out in the "real world".

As for your first day, remember that everyone else is just as nervous as you . . . so relax and STOP WORRYING. You're about to set out on what will probably the 3 of the most exciting years of your life.
A little bit of nerves is normal but don't let those "what-ifs" spoil the experience for you.
 
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Uni is fun from what I recall, just find the bar and all good ;)
 
feeb said:
...we have an art teacher next year who seems to HATE modern photography (hes our photography tutor...)...
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That sounds a bit like my head of year - he was a hard barsteward who never gave out plaudits to anyone other than those who did what he liked. My stuff he hated for the full three years of the degree.
 
Enjoy yourself mate, there is a lot to see and learn for sure and you sound like a pretty outgoing person so you will fit in no problem.

I spent a lot of time at university but did not like it much.

I am the first to admit that I am a bit of a loner, pretty weird and probably did not really fit in. I struggle to spell my own name but numbers, well that is a different matter altogether.

I had to go to uni to get the qualification I wanted, managed to get a phd before I was 25 but would not have gone otherwise.

Is not for everyone, a lot of people hate it when they get there, I am sure you will love it.
 
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That sounds a bit like my head of year - he was a hard barsteward who never gave out plaudits to anyone other than those who did what he liked. My stuff he hated for the full three years of the degree.
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my mrs left her design degree halfway because she couldnt hack some of the pompous bigots who were teaching her courses. she's much happier now though, but i do think where she could have been if she stayed on.
 
specialman said:
That sounds a bit like my head of year - he was a hard barsteward who never gave out plaudits to anyone other than those who did what he liked. My stuff he hated for the full three years of the degree.
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yeah he doesnt even acknowledge peoples work unless its 'up his street' fortunatly for me he seemed quite 'into' my portfolio when he looked over it, a couple of people i spoke to told me he just seperated a number of their pictures from the rest and refused to comment on them

some people hey!

art is made to be different and all that :)
 
I've just finished Uni, well, I did in May anyway :p Best years of my life, I can honestly say that. Also made the best mates a guy could hope for. Sometimes I wish I was still there, also wish we'd spent more time together.

It's daunting moving out but I can tell you it will be great, I'm sure of that. I'm even thinking of doing another degree when this one's paid for. I'll graduate in York minster in November which will be the culmination of three years hard work to get a 2:1.

Some lecturers will be cocks, there are cocks everywhere in life, but you'll realise this and grow with that knowledge.

Good luck to you fella, I hope you have a great time. Don't worry too much, keep your door open and put yourself out there - the most emabarrasing things can be the most useful at times. :p

P.s. I met my girlfriend in year one, after two weeks of arriving actually. Since that 2nd week she's been living with me all the time. In she only stayed at her place for one night in the first year, and never after that.

Enjoy yourself - work hard, play hard. :)
 
feeb said:
MartynK - you sound like a proper dude, what a wonderful bit of sharing advice your post was :)

muchos respect to you

if you ever write a book i want the second copy - wife gets the first one of course ;)

take care x
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Thanks, Fi. I'll make sure you get the second copy, if I ever get round to writing it!

I met my wife while I was at uni (she wasn't), we were together for a while, and we split up. No particular reason, just drifted apart I suppose. We met again through a bizarre series of coincidences, in the old Rhodesia, several years later, and got married six months later. That was quite a while ago, and we were probably too young, but we're still together. No regrets at all, from my point of view anyway, although she might have wondered, just once or twice..........

We were in Edinburgh in January, for the first time in about 30 years, and it felt quite out of time to walk through streets we last walked through together when we were 18. Edinburgh hasn't changed very much, and I had a very strong sense that we haven't either. Still children of the 60s and early 70s.
 
Like everyone else says, enjoy it but do not forget you are there to get a degree. With the volume of people attending university you need to come out with at least a 2.1 preferably 1:1.

Good luck.
 
Never went to university, not what you did thirty years ago in the east end of London, too bloody skint

Amazes me now how everybody goes, suppose its cheaper than paying the dole and some of it actually gets paid back

Only worrying thing is that now the entry qualification for any job is a degree, used to be five O levels, just puts off going to work for three or five years

If the places were kept for the brighter students albeit rich or poor then the qualifications might still be credible and the youngsters who needed to really learn a trade could still go to a poly

Always told my daughter to go and study something that might give her a chance of a proper job otherwise don't bother getting a second rate degree in something useless and obscure
 
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Never went to university, not what you did thirty years ago in the east end of London, too bloody skint

Amazes me now how everybody goes, suppose its cheaper than paying the dole and some of it actually gets paid back

Only worrying thing is that now the entry qualification for any job is a degree, used to be five O levels, just puts off going to work for three or five years

If the places were kept for the brighter students albeit rich or poor then the qualifications might still be credible and the youngsters who needed to really learn a trade could still go to a poly

Always told my daughter to go and study something that might give her a chance of a proper job otherwise don't bother getting a second rate degree in something useless and obscure
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Unfortunately it's now the norm to go to university.

A few of my friends aren't going to university.
One of them has been taken on by virgin media and will soon be a certified installations engineer on a respectable wage for his age, the other is currently in customer service and waitrose head office.

My mum says, "What, they're not going to uni?!"

Most kids are going to uni because they don't know what else to do.

I'm going to do a 2 year Higher National Diploma in Advertising and Media Communication, followed by a 1 year top up course to get a Bachelor of Arts Honours Degree in Integrated Promotional Media.

That way I'll come out of university not only with 2 qualifications (A HND and a BA(Hons)) but with a really broad ability.
I'll have the hands on ability that the HND will bring me, the academic ability that the degree will bring me, and also the course isn't extremely refined (i.e. a course in film or media studies) and so should give me a chance to try plenty of stuff in the media industry.

I've thought this out as you can see :)

Thanks a lot for the comments. It's all coming up very quickly, but I'm a little less nervous now.
I've got all my stuff for my course sorted, i.e. books, stationary.
Got all my kitchen stuff sorted too. Now it's just a case of packing up all my wordly possessions on thursday and friday and off i trot on saturday morning!
 
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Seems like you at least have a plan, going to be a lot of competition with so many degree educated people about
I work for BT and they have just announced they are stopping their graduate programme, think that might be the case with a few big firms as costs are cut
Joined them as an apprentice in 1975 and still there, even then needed the obligatory 5 O levels and still had to sit entrance tests, not much like that about these days

My daughter is doing an Optometry degree, hopefully should be able to find work as an Optometrist when qualified, always going to need eyes tested

Good luck with your studies and hope it all goes to plan, sure you will soon settle in
If you don't there is a life apart from uni and if its not for you don't give into peer pressure and have a miserable life.
 
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