Sketchy encounter I had last week at the bus station

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Last week I was waiting for a bus downtown to get home when a random guy complimented a hair bow I was wearing. I accepted the compliment, not knowing what was going to happen next. He said I was his old girlfriend from when we were little and forced himself on me to give him a hug. He also kissed my cheek and asked me how I was doing. I told him I was engaged and he said "You should date me on the side. Your fiance would do the same thing and he doesn't have to know." b******t. I respect my fiance too much to go behind his back like that. I said I had to get on a bus to go home and he made me stay half an hour past the time I had said that.

I remained there in that uncomfortable situation while he went on about how my dad taught him to snowboard, how his sister was raped and the rapist got executed. (I'm in Canada, we don't have the death penalty.) He said his mom jumped off of the bridge and he needed somebody to be with him, so I felt badly. I feel stupid now for falling for it.

I reported it to the bus company and one of their security officers has been in touch with me. He said they know who he is and other women have reported him before. Yesterday the officer was in touch with me again and we started the process to press charges. I phoned the police to get a case number today and the officer seemed to be nice enough.

The only person not encouraging me to press charges is my grandmother. I stupidly told her about it and she said he must have a disability, so I shouldn't press charges. She thinks if I do that, he will be stressed out in court and it's not fair to him. She said he really thought I was his old girlfriend and I should be more kind to him.
 
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Whether or not he has "disabilities" it doesn't give him the right to behave in that manner.
 
Police - report it - PDQ !!

If that nutter gets any worse he could become a serial killer.
 
It's miserable to be pestered and disconcerting when it's by someone with mental health issues because the usual arguments & defences don't work. If you see him again it's probably better just to stay well clear, even if it makes catching the bus a little difficult.

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Yesterday he was in touch with me again
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And never give people you don't want to talk with your phone number or email address. Easy for me to say now, but being a little cautious is always better than later regret.
 
ancient_mariner said:
It's miserable to be pestered and disconcerting when it's by someone with mental health issues because the usual arguments & defences don't work. If you see him again it's probably better just to stay well clear, even if it makes catching the bus a little difficult.



And never give people you don't want to talk with your phone number or email address. Easy for me to say now, but being a little cautious is always better than later regret.
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I meant that the security officer was in touch with me. Not the guy. The guy doesn't have my contact information.
 
Oops. Glad to hear it's that way round then. :)
 
@Chipl95 firstly I am pleased you are ok and that you handled that intrusion in a calm manner.

IMO as you said the bus station security know of him and his activities it beggars the question as to why they have not monitored his presence at the bus station and possibly acted to exclude him???

Having said that, if the only way he is going to get the help he needs by going through being charged with a (minor?) offence then that is what is required. But coming back to my question above about other reports of his actions, will you be the only one pressing charges. I hope there is someone or some organisation who can give you any support if you feel you need it?
 
Box Brownie said:
@Chipl95 firstly I am pleased you are ok and that you handled that intrusion in a calm manner.

IMO as you said the bus station security know of him and his activities it beggars the question as to why they have not monitored his presence at the bus station and possibly acted to exclude him???

Having said that, if the only way he is going to get the help he needs by going through being charged with a (minor?) offence then that is what is required. But coming back to my question above about other reports of his actions, will you be the only one pressing charges. I hope there is someone or some organisation who can give you any support if you feel you need it?
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As far as I know, there are some other women pressing charges against him. Most of the people I know have been supportive of me pressing charges, but I do still have pushback. I see a therapist every week and will be telling her about this too.
 
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