So if I leave the flash in ttl bl mode and turn the camera to manual is this the only way I can achieve shutter speeds up to 250th obviously bar fp mode.
Any flash mode with work up to 1/250th. It's above this that FP mode kicks in, although it's a seamless transition - the camera won't alert you to the fact because if you go to, say, 1/500th, the flash will still just work, but with a reduced contribution to the exposure in terms of distance.
Keeping it in manual and at 1/250th guarantees that you don't exceed flash sync speed - I tend to shoot in manual (on the camera) and then either use manual flash settings when I have time to work on flash ratios and what not, or I just stick it in TTL mode and the flash just does the heavy lifting; if I need a bit more flash I just increase it on the flash, keeping the exposure on the camera as-is, only altering that via the aperture. I usually start at somewhere like 1/250th against an ISO that will give me a reasonable background exposure (with the aperture at something like f/5.6) so the background is slightly underexposed. Then the flash just fills in the blanks.
By the way, TTL BL is a balanced mode where the camera always tries to create a more balanced look between flash and ambient.
Taken from photo.net:
TTL: Through-the-Lens flash metering
TTL-BL: Balanced fill flash between flash and ambient light
TTL-FP: Focal Plane flash: permits flash photography with a shutter speed faster than the camera sync speed, which is typically 1/250 sec or 1/200 sec on Nikon DSLRs. In the * TTL-FP mode: the flash uses a sequence of pulse flashes to get round the sync speed limitation so that it can sync with as fast as 1/8000 sec but at reduced flash power. The higher the shutter speed, the greater the flash power reduction.
A: Auto, instead of using TTL flash with a flash meter inside the camera to measure the amount of flash, use a flash metering sensor built inside the flash to control the flash level. Among iTTL flashes, this feature is only available on the SB-800 and SB-900
M: manual, control the flash level manually at full, 1/2, 1/4, 1/8…typically at 1/3-stop increments.