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Hi guys,
this has not happened to me but i have had it at public partys,
one of the guest turns to you and says "point that camera at me or my family again and i'll shove it up yer ar*e"
when this happened to me, i just walked a little ways up the road/street/green
my question is this, if this happened at a wedding and the bride/groom couldnt care less would you pack up and leave, or carry on hoping the the big guy with the broken nose is not going to carry out his threat?
 
If your at a wedding you dont leave.... if someone dosn't want there pic taken then dont take it.. Funny way of telling you but kinda expected if A) person has been drinking or B) person is a complete moron who likes to play hard man..

Dont want pic taken..Don't take it.. Really is that simple :)
 
Don't cause a fight, but photograph the wedding ignoring said guest
 
In a professional way you should just not take the picture but Tbh I couldn't just leave that as I could not let someone talk to me like that. I would end up giving him a slap and then take his picture after lol.
 
the wedding is a what if, but when it happened to me the guy was A+B at folk week in broadstairs, im not a small chap but i'll rather not clash with a drunk with over three grands worth around me neck, i just thought a wedding is a small place and you are some what trapped.
 
Madpup said:
the wedding is a what if, but when it happened to me the guy was A+B at folk week in broadstairs, im not a small chap but i'll rather not clash with a drunk with over three grands worth around me neck, i just thought a wedding is a small place and you are some what trapped.
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That's my problem, I act then think later so I wouldn't be the best person to be in that kind of situation, although I would feel sorry for the guy as I wouldn't be an easy fight lmao.
 
duttytd said:
although I would feel sorry for the guy as I wouldn't be an easy fight lmao.
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You also wouldnt be a wedding photographer for very long.. unfortunatly you ahve to take allsorts of garbage off people when on a job.. wedding or any other type of job photogrpahing... fighting wiht the customer, family or friends of would get you a very quick bad reputation..

If out hobbying... smash his face in :)
 
KIPAX said:
You also wouldnt be a wedding photographer for very long.. unfortunatly you ahve to take allsorts of garbage off people when on a job.. wedding or any other type of job photogrpahing... fighting wiht the customer, family or friends of would get you a very quick bad reputation..

If out hobbying... smash his face in :)
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Haha Il stick to my fighting.
 
Difficult as it is at times, one has to ignore the drunken/idiotic/brain dead * oafs at times.

If it is getting out of hand, then there should be a clause in the contract explaining the outcome should it persist. Just have a quiet word with the groom.

Either that or just kick the SOOTFM...............:D


* delete as appropriate.
 
Take a candid when he's not looking of him picking his nose and then feature it prominently in the album and on your website and immortalise him forever.

In the meantime get a tripod with removable feet with spikes underneath..... "Oh sorry was that your foot?"
 
KIPAX said:
If your at a wedding you dont leave.... if someone dosn't want there pic taken then dont take it.. Funny way of telling you but kinda expected if A) person has been drinking or B) person is a complete moron who likes to play hard man..
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or C) recently featured on Crimewatch! :bat:
 
Putting the boot on the other foot (pun intended), I recently was a guest at a family wedding.

Before, during & after the ceremony followed by the reception the 2nd tog did not stop taking pics of all the guests, all in all 1200 pics in total. She was a real pain.

Later in the evening these pics were put on a laptop so guests could have a look, no editing done, trees sticking out of people's heads, crooked horizons etc.

Then came the crunch, ten quid a picture, most were crap anyway.

So by all means take pics of the guests, but draw the line somewhere.
 
boyfalldown said:
Don't cause a fight, but photograph the wedding ignoring said guest
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Agree. I've had it happen, drunk guest mouthing off in front of a couple of women, I was taking a candid shot of the bridal party on a balcony at the reception and he happened to be on the balcony. Lots of foul language and threats but I calmed down in the end ;) just kidding, foul language and threats from him I just smiled and asked him to move out of the shot if he didn't want his photo taken. He was going on about it being a private function and how dare I take his photo. Maybe he thought I was a press tog and he was a VIP LOL. You can't let stuff like that ruffle your feathers, be polite and professional and put it down to the alcohol.
 
Simple solution:

If you are being paid to shoot the wedding, point him in the direction of the Bride's mother and ask him to discuss it with her. That should resolve the matter fairly quickly!
 
DemiLion said:
Simple solution:

If you are being paid to shoot the wedding, point him in the direction of the Bride's mother and ask him to discuss it with her. That should resolve the matter fairly quickly!
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I like that :)

The tog we've recently hired for our wedding has stated in the contract that we've signed that abuse won't be accepted. I don't know how I'd handle it personally, having to protect your reputation etc., but if one of our guests was threatening the tog and nothing is done about it, I expect she'll leave.
 
AlfyB said:
I like that :)

The tog we've recently hired for our wedding has stated in the contract that we've signed that abuse won't be accepted. I don't know how I'd handle it personally, having to protect your reputation etc., but if one of our guests was threatening the tog and nothing is done about it, I expect she'll leave.
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I guess I've been lucky in that I've never been threatened. I have had the odd guest making funny comments ' You didn't ask permission........' type things. Just move on, no scene, but no more photographs of that guest. If the bride ever asks why you can just tell her.

I do think guests threatening is thankfully very rare, and although I have a similar clause in my contract, I would certainly speak to the B & G before ever invoking it
 
I had some lad at my first solo wedding saying things like "Don't you dare ****ing photograph me" etc, he was slaughtered.

Worst part was he was the bridesmaids partner, however, she wanted a photo taken and she stated in front of everyone, if he didn't have one with her he wouldn't be getting any sex that night :D

He was all smiles after that.

gus607 said:
So by all means take pics of the guests, but draw the line somewhere.
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That is where the 200mm comes in, most of my photos no one in them even knew I was taking them.
 
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Whilst ignoring him might work it gets trickier if you have other photographer/assistants working with you. If your the boss then you have a duty of care not to place staff in a position where they might get hurt, if you carry on after a threat then you could get sued if something were to happen later.
 
I think all joking aside I would speak to the best man if it were me. Explain the situation. Tell him he needs to sort the guest out and that if he doesn't want pictures he needs to leave as you are being paid to do a job and he is making it difficult. And that you don't wish to be spoken to abusively and any further threats will be handled by phoning the police. That way he will understand the seriousness of the issue, the bride and groom don't get upset and you are protected.
 
My daughter gets married in August - anyone talks to the photographer like that they will be leaving.......very quickly:boxer:
 
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