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Help. A friend has ask me to do there gay wedding. Never done a gay wedding. It's a free-be. Has anyone got a list of shot to take? Stand wedding list will not work.
Any help would be great.
 
Chump said:
Help. A friend has ask me to do there gay wedding. Never done a gay wedding. It's a free-be. Has anyone got a list of shot to take? Stand wedding list will not work.
Any help would be great.
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see the other thread on lesbian weddings - but as poah says its not really any different to a straight wedding. Happy couple , happy couple kissing, Happy couple and parents (if they are there) , Happy couple and his freinds, happy couple and other set of freinds, massive group shot of everyone, cake cutting, first dance etc

also talk to them first - its their day so you're job is to take the shots they want
 
Thanks both, to be honest I never through of like that. The problem being I have talked to them, they don't know what they want. I have suggested quite a few shots that they like. Going to view the venue this week. May just use a stand wedding shot list. Quite looking forward to it.
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Kev
 
show them some images of other weddings straight or gay on the net and get them to pick shots and poses they like.
 
I have done about 10 gay weddings in the past 2 years. The pink pound is big business now. I treat the shots just the same as any other wedding. Dont look at it any different and dont be afraid of letting them get intimate jsut as you would with a bride and groom.
 
Thanks for that Andy. I am looking forward to it.
 
You mean a Civil Partnership Ceremony, as in the UK only heterosexuals can be married.

Apart from the pedantic, a wedding is a wedding just shoot as any other wedding.

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whiteflyer said:
You mean a Civil Partnership Ceremony, as in the UK only heterosexuals can be married.

Apart from the pedantic, a wedding is a wedding just shoot as any other wedding.

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This is the legal term but i think you will find most couples would prefer you refer to it as a wedding.
 
I have a gay sister and auntie both of them are married. They don't say this is my civil partner they say this is my wife... They don't like to be treated any different.

EDIT - not married to each other
 
I have a gay wedding this Friday. Great couple and they are going to be a pleasure to shoot. You coming along to assist still Tony?

Here is the couple.
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asphotographymk said:
I have a gay wedding this Friday. Great couple and they are going to be a pleasure to shoot. You coming along to assist still Tony?

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Yeah I'm still coming to assist you, I will call you tomorrow about it ;-)

Tony
 
The ceremony itself is still a wedding... the difference between a marriage and a civil partnership exists only at the paperwork level in the registry portion (a male/female couple that have a wedding in a church are no more legally married than a gay couple having a wedding in a park, until the paperwork is completed).

In all but the definition for legal paperwork the two ceremonies are essentially identical (identical as any two weddings can be, given that there are so many variables the couple can modify).

So to argue that the ceremony is 'different' because of something that isn't even part of that ceremony, is ludicrous, and likely just someone expressing their own personal bigotry.
 
gus607 said:
But it is NOT a wedding.
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strictly speaking it is a wedding ( a celebration of the union of two people who love each other), though by some definitions it isnt a marriage (ie its a union not one in the 'sight of gawd') ... but that could also be said of many heterosexual weddings including my own and anyone else who got married by a registrar rather than a religious figure.

all that notwithstanding if the couple concerned see it as a wedding, then its a wedding - and a tog won't get much buisness by insisting that it isnt.
 
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NikkiA said:
The ceremony itself is still a wedding... the difference between a marriage and a civil partnership exists only at the paperwork level in the registry portion (a male/female couple that have a wedding in a church are no more legally married than a gay couple having a wedding in a park, until the paperwork is completed).

In all but the definition for legal paperwork the two ceremonies are essentially identical (identical as any two weddings can be, given that there are so many variables the couple can modify).

So to argue that the ceremony is 'different' because of something that isn't even part of that ceremony, is ludicrous, and likely just someone expressing their own personal bigotry.
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A bigot I am not.
 
gus607 said:
A bigot I am not.
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Okay so if you arent a bigot - why the insistence that a gay wedding is not a wedding

imo if two people love each other and want to recognise and celebrate that their union is permanent then thats a 'wedding' and they have a perfect right to call it as such without anyone insisting that actually no theirs isnt a 'propper' wedding because of their orientation.
 
gus607 said:
A bigot I am not.
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Looks like a bigot, sounds like a bigot, acts like a bigot.......

A civil partnership is still a wedding no matter how you want to look at it. My civil ceremony was performed by a registrar does that mean my wife and I are not infact married?
 
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Yeah... insisting over and over again that this isn't a wedding does make you look like a bigot, actually.

:/

Just because the legal definition of their status is different after the ceremony itself, that doesn't change what the ceremony is. Frankly I personally find the fact that the term civil partnership even exists a little unacceptable, and I hope this will change in the future in the spirit of equality.
 
onona said:
Yeah... insisting over and over again that this isn't a wedding does make you look like a bigot, actually.

:/

Just because the legal definition of their status is different after the ceremony itself, that doesn't change what the ceremony is. Frankly I personally find the fact that the term civil partnership even exists a little unacceptable, and I hope this will change in the future in the spirit of equality.
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i agree - their status should be no different to a hetero couple who choose to have a civil ceremony rather than a church do, especially as apart from the legal wording there is very little difference in practice

back on the original topic one other thing to bear in mind is that whilst it is impossible to generalise accurately a proportion of LGBT weddings have alternate themes which can make for good photo opportunities but different challenges - for example I was at one lesbian wedding where the theme was medeival fancy dress and the couple dressed as st george and the dragon, wheras another one I did was a jeans and teeshirts afair and the reception was a softball match with teams divided on orientation lines. But equally I've also been at a gay wedding which was extremly formal and just like the most straightlaced church wedding (except for not being in a church - and having two grooms)
 
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Kinda sad that this thread has been derailed into a moral discussion rather than a practical one about the photography itself :/
 
RikkiGTR said:
Kinda sad that this thread has been derailed into a moral discussion rather than a practical one about the photography itself :/
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you're right - but the discussion is pertinent to the photography side as its not practical to set out to photography a LGBT wedding if you have 'reservations' about whether it should be allowed, is a propper wedding etc
 
big soft moose said:
you're right - but the discussion is pertinent to the photography side as its not practical to set out to photography a LGBT wedding if you have 'reservations' about whether it should be allowed, is a propper wedding etc
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Agree. But the OP never mentioned any such reservations :shrug:
 
RikkiGTR said:
Kinda sad that this thread has been derailed into a moral discussion rather than a practical one about the photography itself :/
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This seems to be the case in alot of threads across this forum, pedantic men with too much time on their hands to argue about silly issues that do not matter.

I'm sticking with the wedding folks here, I feel it's still a wedding no matter how deep you nit pick it.
 
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Agree. But the OP never mentioned any such reservations :shrug:
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no but the whole existence of this thread (and others like it) is an indication that people see LGBT couples as different - as the OP said he needs advice because a standard list will not work.

My (and others) point is that insofar as you can ever have a standard list this is just a wedding, and a wedding is a wedding is a wedding and a togs responsibility is always to get the shots the happy couple want, so a 'standard list' is still the starting point for a discussion of what they want and I would expect that most of the usual components - couple together, couple with freinds of one, couple with freinds of other, group shot, kiss shot, cake cutting, first dance etc will in fact be present

The point being that this is just like any other wedding and is not somehow different because of the orientation of the couple in question

(okay so many LGBT couples want alternate themes, but then so do some hetero couples and yu sort that out at the premeet)
 
LGBT ??????
 
big soft moose said:
no but the whole existence of this thread (and others like it) is an indication that people see LGBT couples as different - as the OP said he needs advice because a standard list will not work.

My (and others) point is that insofar as you can ever have a standard list this is just a wedding, and a wedding is a wedding is a wedding and a togs responsibility is always to get the shots the happy couple want, so a 'standard list' is still the starting point for a discussion of what they want and I would expect that most of the usual components - couple together, couple with freinds of one, couple with freinds of other, group shot, kiss shot, cake cutting, first dance etc will in fact be present

The point being that this is just like any other wedding and is not somehow different because of the orientation of the couple in question

(okay so many LGBT couples want alternate themes, but then so do some hetero couples and yu sort that out at the premeet)
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Ok. So long as you know I'm on the "It's a wedding just like any other, as far as I'm concerned..." side, and I have been agreeing with you :D

Splog said:
LGBT ??????
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual.
 
Splog said:
LGBT ??????
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lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender

its used as an acronym instead of saying homosexual because people who have undergone gender reassignment (thats a sex change in lay terms) arent technically homosexual, and many people who are waiting for one dont consider themselves gay either

(that is a gay man fancies other gay men, a man who is waiting for a gender reasignment see himself as a woman in a mans body and would therefore be attracted to heterosexual men)

from a togs point of view its academic , but its a handy term to use to indicate that you are not predjudiced as it doesnt have the negative connotations that sometimes attach to terms like gay or homosexual
 
big soft moose said:
lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender

its used as an acronym instead of saying homosexual because people who have undergone gender reassignment (thats a sex change in lay terms) arent technically homosexual, and many people who are waiting for one dont consider themselves gay either

(that is a gay man fancies other gay men, a man who is waiting for a gender reasignment see himself as a woman in a mans body and would therefore be attracted to heterosexual men)

from a togs point of view its academic , but its a handy term to use to indicate that you are not predjudiced as it doesnt have the negative connotations that sometimes attach to terms like gay or homosexual
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Jeez! .... Complicated innit, all sounds like PC madness to me :shrug:

Anyway, each to their own :) although, I reckon some people will be having a civil partnership (or wedding) with their right hand soon! ............... Now there's an idea worth considering ;)
 
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